Beautiful display of emotional intelligence

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Last night we were back at it at Yoga Teach/Holistic Coach Training. After a weekend retreat and a week of homework, we were to present our coaching plan to our “client” (a fellow student) that included things like routine, Ayurvedic eating plan, spiritual practice, etc. Due to a work conflict, my “client” could not be there, so I asked if anyone would have a problem with me sitting in on their plan presentations. All agreed they had no issue with it.
What an amazing experience! So much thought and time was devoted to the coaching plans. They were heartfelt and honest. At the retreat we interviewed our “client” in order to gather information that would be used to evaluate the individual and create their plan. What I heard through the coaching interactions was that people really SHARED honestly with one another and it had a profound impact on both involved.
Some, including myself, went home and started making positive changes in their life as a result of their conversations. I was asking one duo about their experience and they both agreed it was great to talk to someone about THEMSELVES. We tend to refrain from talking about ourselves with others, fearing they will think us selfish, among a laundry list of other reasons. But at the retreat they felt secure sharing and being vulnerable with their interviewer, and it felt GOOD. The interviewer was attentive, supportive, and most of all, a good listener.
I think one thing that all of us in training have experienced is an increase in our emotional intelligence. What is emotional intelligence? According to Psychology Today, emotional intelligence is “the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include 3 skills:
1. Emotional awareness, including the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others;
2. The ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problems solving;
3. The ability to manage emotions, including the ability to regulate your own emotions, and the ability to cheer up or calm down another person.”

Why is having high emotional intelligence important? Because it can lead to greater happiness. Why are they happier?
1. They are more self-aware
Emotionally intelligent people power up their emotional antenna and pay closer attention to their surroundings and how they fit into a social circle. Conversation, the give-and-take of energy, fires up the neurotransmitters and keeps people mindful of the contextual involvement. That conscious awareness leads to a greater collective feeling of happiness.
2. They manage their emotions
In order to manage emotions, it is necessary to understand what emotions are being expressed and what emotions are being felt. That means being fully conscious and aware of what’s going on inside of you so the outside actions can match the inside emotions. Stay present and happiness results.
3. They are more socially aware
Emotionally intelligent people can manage their emotions in social situations and, at the same time, react in a positive manner to the emotional needs of others who want attention and connection. They have the ability to cheer up or calm down others whatever the context. It’s an easy transition to a happy mindset.
4. They have more empathy
For some, it’s difficult to stay emotionally connected to others and imagine themselves feeling as others feel. However, for those who have emotional intelligence, it’s possible to connect their emotions through their senses and intuition, and, as a result, they usually develop deep responses to those who are in need of consolation or reinforcement.
5. They are more engaged
Emotionally intelligent people have the ability to connect with others by using their emotional awareness to promote cognitive activity that result in understanding the dynamics of others. They have an ability to prioritize what they pay attention and react to, thereby, responding with appropriate feedback to the needs of others.
Emotionally intelligent people improve the quality of their relationships, cultivate leadership skills and garner the respect and love of others, all leading to greater personal happiness. And what’s even more amazing is that it’s possible to learn the emotional communication skills necessary for establishing, maintaining, and deepening relationships at any age.

The amazing women in my training displayed all of these traits as they listened to their coach outline their plan and as they in turn presented to their client. It was a beautiful thing to witness.
Imagine the relationships that could be developed with spouses, parents, children, friends, and co-workers with these abilities. Happiness becomes an added bonus!
Sounds pretty good, right? How can you increase your emotional intelligence? Check out my blog on Friday to find out!

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