“No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the friendship of those who are thoroughly persuaded of each other’s worth.”
My best friend will most likely soon be moving away. Her boyfriend took a job in a different state, and it is inevitable they will start planning their transition. So of my two closest girl friends, one drifted away (I have written about it previously) and now the other is moving away. I am going to be left with no best friends in my area. Of course my husband is one of my best friends and we have a lot in common and enjoy each other’s company. But there is always a place for a best girl friend to do things like shop, or paint, or get a pedicure, or just to have lunch with. Is there a match.com equivalent for making new friends?
When we were young it was easy. You saw the same people every day in school, and you gravitated to certain people. Then when you got a job, some of those people became your friends. And maybe you even met some friends at a shared hobby. But I am out of school, my job is a somewhat lonely place and my hobbies are infrequent. Now what I am going to do?
Monday and Tuesday I was at a work conference in Philadelphia. It was for the operational people that work in my industry for various firms associated with mine. On Monday night I met two of the nicest women during one of the breakout sessions. The after conference event was dinner and bowling. I am not much of a bowler, but those same two women sought me out and convinced me to bowl. I met another wonderful woman that rounded out our bowling team. I had a great time. Then the four of us stopped at a pub on the way back to the hotel and chatted like we were age old friends. We exchanged Facebook information. We had a ton of laughs and they were really the highlight of the conference. Unfortunately they live in Jersey, Charlotte, NC and Fort Lauderdale, FL — nowhere near me. But it did give me hope that I can meet more awesome women like that in my own neck of the woods.
For now I will enjoy the time with my soon-to-be-moving friend and keep in touch with my new long distance friends. Tonight is a New Moon, a typical time for new beginnings. I think I will step up my hobbies or maybe take a class to meet new people. And who knows–maybe I will be part of someone else’s new beginning. If anyone out there has any ideas on where to meet people and make friends, I would love to hear it.
On a separate note, I want to wish all our service men and women a Happy Veterans Day. I am thankful for all that you have done for our country. That group has something way beyond friendship that binds them together.