How to discover who you really are? Think group.

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“When two people meet, there are really six people present. There is each man as he sees himself, each man as he wants to be seen, and each man as he really is.”
-Michael De Saintamo

Last night was the first night I had to teach in front of my fellow yogis. However, I didn’t do it alone – our class was split into four parts and I had three yogis with me. We coordinated what we would teach, what we would say, and what our transitions would be. And I have to say, we pulled it off flawlessly.
I was nervous, but nothing compared to the other women in my group. I have taught group fitness in the past, was relatively used to being in front of people, and I knew my audience. One of my fellow yogis had taught the Community class the week before and did a fabulous job, so she maybe was less nervous. But the other two had never taught in front of a group before. And we were all teaching in front of our teacher who was taking notes. It was nerve-wracking. But all were so open and honest with their feelings and each of us chimed in with support and encouragement, and we did it. To those three ladies, I say thank you. You are an incredible inspiration and I admire your vulnerability.
I like the opening quote because it expressed something I was feeling with my three yogi teachers. We each saw ourselves a certain way, we taught in a way that we wanted to be seen, and then there was the true essence of our beings. We saw ourselves as new teachers, overwhelmed, or maybe frightened. However, when we taught, the class saw us as confident, knowledgeable and skilled. And our true essence? I think deep down we are confident in our abilities and we trust ourselves, and it took this experience to CHANGE how we see ourselves. That change is indeed profound, and I have no doubt it will seep into other areas of our lives, making us stronger.
Then it was time for class feedback.
Each person in the class (our fellow yogis) and the teacher provided feedback ONE BY ONE to our group. We were all on the edge of our seats. Well it couldn’t have been better. The yogis LOVED our class and expressed it in words akin to amazing energy and feeling the love in the room. I would have to say it was one of the highlights of my  Yoga Teacher/Holistic Coach training class. To the yogis who provided feedback – thank you. The positive setniments made us feel so validated and happy, and the areas to work on were so well presented that everyone felt secure. I think it is very important that words are chosen purposefully and to encourage, instead of discourage, and you did that.

So how do you, dear reader, see yourself? Does it match what others see?  And does it all match your true self?  It may be time to step out of your comfort zone and find out.  Is there something you always wanted to do but have been scared to try?  Start to investigate how you can accomplish that goal in the company of others.  There you may find the courage, support and sucess like I did with my yogi friends.  Let your true self emerge.

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